I’m underage.

I’m 15 years old, turned 15 recently actually and I am with a 21 year old man. He thinks I’m 18 and I can’t explain how bad I feel about not telling him. I never told him my age and one day he said I was 18 to a bud of his and I just had to keep it going. I like him a lot and can see myself with him later in life, we don’t live near each other either. I’m not into having sex with anyone and he’s said he is fine with not having sex.

I don’t want him to leave me because of my age and I don’t know how to tell him I’m not actually legal. I just don’t want him to leave me, he makes me feel genuinely happy unlike other boys and girls my age. I want to tell him, but in return i’ll loose our friendship and more friends. Plus he would hate himself for it and I just can’t do that to him. I care to much.

3 Replies to “I’m underage.

  1. I totally understand how you feel. The guy I am in love with is 19 and I’m 15. He says he wants to be with me forever. My mom and Dad found out and they called the police. The guy has never said nor touched me inappropriately. Now I await my fate. I may go to jail or at least juvenile detention.

  2. I understand you have feelings for him, but there are a few questions you need to consider at this age, especially considering the fact that you’re dating:

    1) Can you truly see a future with this man? A happy future where you guys can expand on your relationship, such as living together or anything?
    2) How would telling him now compare to, say a year or so from now? Developing a relationship to such a romantic point, and then its stymied by the fact you never mentioned your age. What if you guys went to a bar? Had alcohol?

    If you truly love him, if you want to see him happy, I suggest you let him go. And if he doesn’t want to leave you, that’s great then I guess. But please, consider how it will affect this man’s livelihood if you told him a year or so from now, when your relationship could be at its strongest. Its taking a toll on you. Its a hard burden to bear, and you definitely don’t deserve that.

    I hope everything goes well.

  3. the worst thing to do is to keep the lie going while you are still with him.

    Option one is to leave him without telling the truth – he wont feel bad and wont think of you as a 15 year old but you will always live with the truth and lying isn’t going to help so i suggest option two which is just to tell the truth.

    the truth hurts but trust me its better

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