Abuse?

I’m putting this out there because I feel like I need someone to tell me if I’m right or not. There are people who have it way worse than I do, and I’m extremely aware of that, but I need someone to tell me whether I’m right or not.

I’m a freshman in high school, and I’ve always considered myself to be relatively mature for my age, so whilst looking back on my life, I decided to reflect on my relationship with my dad.

He’s not a bad person, per say, he’s not an alcoholic, he doesn’t do drugs, he’s not involved in anything illegal, and as far as I’m aware; he’s never hit my mom or anyone else in my family.

However, when I was younger he had a habit of “disciplining” me, he would hit me with his belt a few times, then send me to a corner for a time-out. I was 5.

He stopped when I turned 6 and we moved somewhere else, but for as long as I can remember, he and my mom would argue about something. Everyday they would have at least one argument over whatever. It would usually end in my mom crying and my dad being angry for the rest of the afternoon.

I used school and the Internet as my forms of escape, they were the few times of day I didn’t have to worry about my parents yelling, or me defending my mom from my dad. From a young age, I was taught that I should never cry, because I didn’t have a reason to, why should I, after all? My dad has a good job, we’re not poor, or starving, and he doesn’t hit us. Why should I be sad or angry? That would just mean I was an ungrateful, spoiled brat.

That’s how I always thought of things, until I recently started educating myself abou

2 Replies to “Abuse?

  1. This is the author of this post/confession.

    My text was cut short for some reason, it was mostly just me talking more about my situation at home, and how I feel like my dad’s behaviour slightly reflects that of an emotional abuser and a sociopath.

    However, I don’t want to make any claims that might be unjustified, since I have no idea if this is just how some families are and I’m just being dramatic. I would like to know what other people think, since I know it’s easier to tell with an outsider’s perspective.

    Thank you for taking the time to read this.

    1. I maybe wrong, but judging from what you have written, it seems like your dad is an old-fashioned man who thinks that man makes all the decision and parents need to be strict. This is not to say he is right or wrong, but I think he is doing it the way his previous generation taught him. Maybe you can spend a bit more time with him to understand him more. I mean we don’t know what is going through his head, you may think that he is an emotional guy, but who knows he could be stress from his work, tired, etc. Talk more with him, understand him, and maybe one day you could find the answer to his behaviour.

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